Some time ago I wrote my Open Letter From A Recovering Main Chick. In it, I shared how I am in recovery from a toxic, reactionary lover identity. The Main Chick lover identity is interesting to note. It might be the most desired identity to have and occupy, from the outside looking in. Main Chicks […]
I’m a particular kind of woman. Here’s a superficial breakdown (because of limited space and time): I’m Black. More specifically, I’m African American. I’m cis. That means I agree, psychologically, socially, and sensually, with the gender I was assigned at birth. I’m straight. I like men; I like the ones who are masculine. I’m […]
Stay With Your Sisters. Don’t Let Them Out Of Your Sight.
As the youngest of three girls, I was often instructed, whenever we were set off to go anywhere, to stay with my sisters. Stay with your sisters. And, our eldest sister, Joy, was told not to let us (my sister Lori and I) out of her sight. Don’t let them out of your […]
you Need To Talk To You
Speaking of terror, and thinking of Supreme Love, I was thinking about fragmented selves a lot, all week. I’m documenting the process of developing the Supreme Love methodology in a course. As I build and implement it, I’m considering so many ideas. One salient idea I want to share with you today, as we close […]
Broken Crayons Still Color
Yesterday we had a bunch of great conversations going about dissociative disorder. I shared that, as a recovering co-dependent and Main Chick (my former lover identity), I once suffered from dissociative disorder and I overcame it. This disorder is relatively common among people who’ve experienced a disproportionate amount of relational and social terrors. A steady […]