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You were deprived. Hungry. Thirsty. You were in want of food for your body and water for your soul. He seemed to be right on time, bearing gifts, and grins that made the empty parts of you wake up from their slumber. So, you got fed. Finally. Fed. You got filled up. Finally full. […]
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It’s really hard to talk about Victims. It’s much easier to talk about victims. A victim is someone who was harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or intentional action. Little “v” victims are people who’ve been struck by misfortune, a trial, or tragedy. They’ve certainly dealt with terrors. They’ve […]
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You know who you are. You can feel the hardness under your skin. You’re tough as nails, gritty as sandpaper, and solid as a rock. You take no shorts. You go hard. You see through bullshit and you don’t bullshit. You’re not sentimental. You have no time for softness or slowness. You’re impatient and […]
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When you need a helping hand, who do you call? If you’re a Bonnie, you have a Clyde (the man you’re riding for). And, you also have a crew (the one or two women who ride with you). You’re a ride-or-die chick so you’d think you’re list was long. Yet, ironically, it isn’t. Why […]
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Lover identity is a person’s entire relational ideology and being. It’s a key concept in life and love. Here are the five toxic, reactionary lover identities I found in my research with Black women: Main Chick – You are a leader. You run the show. You are an overachiever and accustomed […]