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Contrary to popular opinion, you’re not here to heal anybody. I tend to say this often because I’m part of a community of scholars, educators, and coaches who do emotional justice for social justice. There are lots of opportunities to develop a savior complex in this line of work. It’s really easy to do, […]
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I think we can all agree that many children have otherworldly brilliance. There are examples of this all over the place. My favorite is that of little Rose, who gave her father a piece of sage advice, off the cuff, while she was busy fastening the seatbelt over her carseat. When asked if she needed […]
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There are so many ways we’re taught to be ashamed of ourselves, especially our interior life. We’re taught to cover up our questions, desires, perceived weaknesses, and struggles. I used to support that stance. I don’t do that anymore because I learned it’s the cover that’s a shame. Instead, I’m down for reveals. Big ones. […]
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In Open Letter From A Recovering Main Chick, I defined lover identity. I also shared how it gets built, over time. I noted that lover identity develops from childhood. I said it gets built in relation to our parents, siblings, and friends. I also said it gets built in relation to strangers. Several women […]