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The title of this blog exemplifies what I call a “pickle.” It’s a conundrum. If someone you love has no idea how important they are to you and you have no idea how to explain it to them, you’ve got a mess. A few weeks ago I sent the message that you want to talk […]
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When people ask me why I write about love and life so much I say it’s because a lot of people are in danger of loving and living unconsciously (myself included). Unconsciousness creates more space for the t/Terrors in love and life to fester, unrecognized and unmediated. That’s bad for everybody and it’s bad for […]
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Speaking of terror, and thinking of Supreme Love, I was thinking about fragmented selves a lot, all week. I’m documenting the process of developing the Supreme Love methodology in a course. As I build and implement it, I’m considering so many ideas. One salient idea I want to share with you today, as we close […]
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Contrary to popular opinion, you’re not here to heal anybody. I tend to say this often because I’m part of a community of scholars, educators, and coaches who do emotional justice for social justice. There are lots of opportunities to develop a savior complex in this line of work. It’s really easy to do, […]
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There are so many ways we’re taught to be ashamed of ourselves, especially our interior life. We’re taught to cover up our questions, desires, perceived weaknesses, and struggles. I used to support that stance. I don’t do that anymore because I learned it’s the cover that’s a shame. Instead, I’m down for reveals. Big ones. […]